[Reblogged] Why The Men’s Rights Movement Is Garbage

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The title is certainly asking for trouble, but the article makes a strong critique of the men’s rights movement in its purpose, intent and methods – especially as it fits in relation to the feminist movement.

My biggest critique is that I would be curious to see the statistics which support the facts of men’s increased exposure to homelessness and suicide, which this article concedes as being Men’s issues. I’ve heard that women more frequently attempt suicide but that men are more successful in their attempts; I also question the belief that men experience homelessness at greater rates than women. Women are in much greater poverty overall, so men being more homeless in numbers than women seems backward. (I would challenge this as a matter of visibility – women may be more likely to stay with friends or to avoid public spaces for safety or privacy reasons, making them less visible to street counts or to the certified accounts of people who walk streets downtown and notice more homeless men than women. No, I don’t believe these count as facts.)

I don’t have the statistics in front of me, but you may find some good ones as offshoots from this article.

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I need to take a moment here to talk about the Men’s Rights Movement, because there seems to be some confusion. Actually, there seems to be a whole lot of confusion.

Over the past little while, I’ve had a number of people challenge me on calling out men’s rights activists (hereafter referred to as MRAs). “But men are oppressed too,” people say. “Feminism is sexist, and it teaches men that masculinity is wrong.” “Straight, white men aren’t allowed to be proud of themselves anymore.” “If you believe in equality, then you should want men to have the same type of activism as women.” “Everyone is entitled to their opinion.”

First of all, yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion. But let’s not pretend that all opinions are created equal – some are based on fact, and some are total bullshit. Like, I could tell you that I believe that vaccines…

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[Reblogged] Four things about men and women I’ve learnt from being neither

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a gentleman and a scholar

I think part of it is a family trait, of being treated as a safe person to talk to – several relatives have had similar experiences – but part of it is most definitely being publicly genderqueer. Since I came out, nearly half a lifetime ago, I’ve found that so many of my interactions with women and men* have been marked by them designating me as something like safe territory. Someone they can talk to about gender, sex, sexuality, identity, who will both understand where they’re coming from and give them another perspective – like a gender translator and diplomat – and, crucially, listen and respond without judging them along strict binary lines. Because I’ve already transgressed those boundaries, and won’t try to punish them if it turns out that they’re transgressed them too.

This isn’t anything more than anecdotal evidence and personal experience – in generalized, anonymous terms and…

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